Increase your emotional intelligence by reading books about emotions.
Emotions should never be confused with feelings. Although closely related, the two are very different.
Emotion is a physical response of the body to internal or external events. They are unconscious and mostly out of our control. But with knowledge and practice, we can learn to recognize them, manage them and recover from them quicker. This is called emotional intelligence.
On the other hand, the feeling is how you consciously perceive an emotion. And while you can’t control your emotions you can control your feelings.
Have you ever wondered how emotions work and where do they come from? In these books, you’ll find answers to these and many more questions you probably never even thought of asking.
Best books to learn about emotions
The Emotional Brain: The Mysterious Underpinnings of Emotional Life – Joseph Ledoux
Joseph LeDoux is an American neuroscientist. In his book The Emotional Brain, he explains ideas about how emotions are produced in the brain. With a focus on how the brain detects and reacts to stimuli, what means emotional learning and how it occurs, how emotional memories are formed, and how conscious feelings related to emotions emerge from the unconscious emotion-related processes. Reading the book you’ll learn and understand many complex processes that happen in the brain and body due to emotions. How emotions evolved to help our ancestors survive life in a hostile environment. You’ll find out why you can’t think clearly when flooded with emotion and how emotions control your thoughts and actions. If you ever wondered do animals and humans experience emotions the same way read the book and find the answers to these and many other emotional questions.
Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ – Daniel Goleman
We all know IQ is important, but do you know that EQ is equally if not even more important? And while it’s believed that IQ remains pretty much the same throughout your life no matter what you do, EQ is much more manageable. Maybe the best explanation of EQ is this quote from Aristotel “Anyone can become angry–that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way–that is not easy.”. And this is what Daniel Goleman writes about in Emotional Intelligence.
Molecules Of Emotion: The Science Behind Mind-Body Medicine – Candace B. Pert
Candace B. Perth is a famous American neuroscientist and pharmacologist, most known for discovering the opiate receptor. And in this groundbreaking book, she shares her research on connections between the body and mind. You’ll find questions like why do we feel the way we feel, what are emotions, and how do emotions and our thoughts affect our health are just some of the topics covered in this book. Candace Perth successfully explains complex scientific concepts in a clear and understandable way. Using simple language and engaging stories you’ll learn about yourself and the world around you. So that any person regardless of their education can understand molecules of emotions and their impact on our lives.
Emotions Revealed: Recognizing Faces and Feelings to Improve Communication and Emotional Life – Paul Ekman
For all the fans of the TV series Lie To Me. This is the book that will teach you how to read emotions off of people’s faces. Some people can hide their feelings but no person can hide their emotions. Emotion is written all over their face and expresses itself through body language. With knowledge and a little bit of practice, you can learn to recognize what each emotion looks like. Through exercises and photographs, Paul Ekman teaches you to read emotions so that you can distinguish true emotions from faked ones and thus improve your relationships and never be fooled again.
Emotional Intelligence 2.0 – Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves
Your guide to emotional intelligence. By now you already know EQ is very important. But do you know how to go about increasing yours? Well, wonder no more! This book is brimming with how-to’s and strategies to increase your emotional intelligence. You’ll learn strategies for improving self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management. These are four essential skills of EQ. Using the knowledge gained from surveying half a million people on the role of emotions in daily life authors created an emotional intelligence test. With a book, you’ll receive a passcode to take the test and then focus on building the skills you need to raise your EQ.
The Emotional Life of Your Brain: How Its Unique Patterns Affect the Way You Think, Feel, and Live–and How You Can Change Them – Richard J. Davidson & Sharon Begley
In the book The Emotional Life of Your Brain, Richard J. Davidson writes about Emotional Style that is unique for every person. Emotional Style is a consistent way of responding to the experiences of our lives, and it is determined by the degree of resilience, social intuition, self-awareness, sensitivity to context, attention, and outlook. Reading this book you’ll gain a better understanding of yourself, your emotions and reactions to life events, but also others and their behavior.
Permission to Feel – Marc Brackett
Permission to Feel is a powerful read. The author shares a deeply personal life story to prove that you are in control of your life, no matter the circumstances if only you give yourself the permission to feel. Were you ever so overwhelmed by an emotion that you couldn’t control your actions? Marc Brackett developed a RULER system for managing emotions. The RULER system consists of five skills that are explained in detail in this book. Those five skills are recognizing emotion, understanding emotion, labeling emotion, expressing emotion, and regulating emotion. By learning to use the RULER system you learn to take control of your actions, thoughts, and ultimately life.
A Human History of Emotion: How the Way We Feel Built the World We Know – Richard Firth-Godbehere
A Human History of Emotion is a history book with a twist. It is our history seen through the prism of emotions. We like to think of ourselves as rational beings, but as it turns out we are not so rational after all. The unique combination of psychology, neuroscience, philosophy, art, and history is captivating and eye-opening.